Research has
shown that a frequently overlooked ingredient is one that not many people
understand. They think they know what it
means. They pretend they know what it
means. They tell other people that they
know what it means. But they have no
idea what it really means.
Humility. It’s not low self-esteem (which is frequently
what those missing humility say when defining it). It’s not self-doubt (which is denigrated as a
slower, more thoughtful deliberative process by those missing humility). It’s
not an analogy for poor or peasant or preacher or poser.
Thinking less
ABOUT yourself is actually more empowering FOR yourself. It gives you the ability to reflect and
actually consider another person’s situation.
It is a person that has confidence without conceit; a leader that
investigates without blaming; a partner that shows grace when admitting errors. It makes sense – using less brain power to
think about yourself gives you greater ability to think about other things!
Some people
think business leaders – or those in charge of decision-making at any organization
– are failures when they show humility.
No doubt these are the same people that say they are humble (when they
are absolutely not) or they say they trust someone (and show every way possible
that they really don’t trust anyone but themselves). If a person who pretends to be humble and
having humility doesn’t listen to others or test other’s suggestions, then he
or she will miss a lot of opportunity to open doors and gain that missing and
coveted success and respect.
Be HONEST
with yourself. If you can’t be honest
with yourself, you will never be honest with anyone else. Open your toolbox and see what you have, and
start working toward getting those missing pieces to make a better you. You will find people like you more and are
also willing to listen to you more as you show you are really listening to
them, considering them equals rather than “lesser” people.
